Comparing Ourself to Others…

Comparing Ourself to Others…

I’ll be blogging about the first 2 weeks of our Why Her study…

The truth will always set us free.

This book comes with in 6 truths we should and need to always live by.

1. You need to be honest.

2. See it for what it really is.

You need to be honest.

2 Corinthians 10:12 In measuring themselves by themselves and comparing themselves to themselves, they lack understanding.

We’ve all as women of the world and in our homes at one time or another have “compared ourselves to others” and have probably ask ourselves the grueling question “why her”, as to why is she a better cook or why is she able to live in a nicer home or even as a housewife “why can’t I get my floor to shine like that”, or even why don’t I have q green thumb when it comes to gardening or growing colorful flowers”?

Comparison to others can become even obsessive at times or create quite the havoc in our lives if we allow it to.

In this book “Why Her” and for the study they use the story of Leah and Rachelle in Genesis and how Rachelle was able to have love in her life while Leah wasn’t yet she was able to bear children and Rachelle wasn’t. After Leah continue to bear children and tells herself maybe Jacob will love me now it isn’t until she gives birth to her fourth child that she has had enough and says to herself “I will praise the Lord.

We learn through this reading and study that You need to be honest.

We love to shout out our successes but seldom show or let others see our secret sorrows.

Do I always feel there are other writers and bloggers out there that produce better writing content than I do for readers? Why of course and it’s a competitive world for all of us. Even though I write and blog as well as read blogs because I enjoy it first and foremost but I enjoy reading and learning from others to! Thank you for blogging out there along with me. We all have something worth reading to write. Don’t ever think or believe you don’t as I have doubted myself a time or two. Oh, okay let’s be honest more often than that at times.

See it Like It Really Is Verse:Proverbs 31:30

“Charm is deceptive and beauty is fleeting, but a woman who fears the Lord will be praised. ”

Any comparison struggle welcome up against is a struggle.

Our pastor delivered a message worth perceiving yesterday morning in church about how if we allow the enemy to “he will have us and our minds all twisted up in knots”. Of course that’s his plan to seek us out and destroy us!

Our pastor used the story in Matthew about where the lady was hunched over for years and had ask us “could you imagine being as this lady was for this long?

The enemy wants us to believe she has a better life.

Us getting personal with God is the best way we can disarm the enemy and not give him what he has set out to accomplish all along.

And by asking God to give me eyes to see what I need to see, not what I want to see.

This is the reality of it all and this is what Nicki writes about in the book.

There are plenty of areas in my life I can reflect on where I have compared myself to others when I think back long and hard and even at times still do.

We need to be supporting, loving and encouraging to each other in our walks and in being successful as we write and blog daily and in other areas of our lives. I’m just using this for an example. I don’t worry at all about competition because I find and get my most pleasure out of reading, learning, and educating myself from others if I haven’t already read or learned about it elsewhere.

Are we missing God’s blessings when we have our eyes or hearts elsewhere? Most certainly we are at times I’m sure.

My husband and I don’t have a huge amount of money but, we don’t need a large amount of money either. We have all we need and my heart is full of joy on most every day when I look around and I am thankful and grateful for all we do have. With us having this land we are rich as my husband told me and it will never let us down. God blessed us with this land. It may take months and even years for us to have it how we dream about and no hurry. I’ve learned to enjoy the process of all things in life.

As women who choose to fear the Lord, we are asking God to show us.

Honesty can lead us to much quieter places. Wisdom helps us to enjoy the learning process of what God is teaching us.

There are times I’ll say to myself “there’s a lesson in this” at times I’ve even went into seeking the lesson out, and being joyful in the learning of the lesson when God practices grace in my life.

I’ve learned I can control myself and what I allow to affect my life.

There is always more than likely a blessing after the storm or as Nicki states in the book:

We always have choices. We can settle and pout.

God doesn’t want us to settle. He wants us to come to him and shift and praise.

1 Peter 5:8 We have an enemy that is prowling around to devour us.

Fear of the Lord is the opposite of being scared or wanting to hide.

I no longer look back at what I can’t change I keep my eyes and heart on Jesus and praise him for all I do have.

Wisdom teaches us to not ask “why is this happening” to “what can we do about it”?

God made us all unique in our own way and there’s to much that’s beautiful about each and everyone of us to lose it all on another.

Honesty is teaching us to stop fearing what we don’t have, so we can see what we do.

By accepting what we have we are able to get honest with ourselves and be able to remain honest and to not let the enemy ruin the excitement of our grace filled life.

Being able to recognize when we are feeling this way is important for us then, we are to be honest and do something about it before it gets out of hand or before we let our minds and hearts get out of sorts, in order for us to be able to stay on the right path that God wants us on, and has laid out before us. It’s up to us to choose.

God has given us a longing to know him, and be known by him. I like how Nicki says this in the book. It leads us out of comparison into restoration.

I’m going to end the first couple of weeks for now and leave us all with plenty to think about!

Go to Him and let him know how you feel. He’s always available for us.

There is so much more in the book as you can see I have a notebook already full of notes.

I definitely recommend this book and doing the study.

You can still sign up and you will receive the first 3 chapters of the book until you receive your copy of the book.

As time goes on I’m sure I’ll have so much more to write about in and during my study. I’m trying not to give to much away yet, and in trying to say and write so much, with out giving to much away so I hope your getting this. I sure am! Powerful words within this book!

This is something us as women all struggle with so I say: Purchase The Book and Enjoy the Study!

I hope you’ve enjoyed this and I’m off to go read “Why Her”.

God Bless…

Something to think about below and do you know Jesus?

3. You don’t always have to be okay.

Oh! That’s coming up next week!

See you for my next blog about “Why Her” study next week